Positive Affirmations' Journal|
[Most Recent Entries]
Below are the 12 most recent journal entries recorded in
Positive Affirmations' LiveJournal:
|Tuesday, April 24th, 2007|
Hi, I'm new here, and I need some help.
I've been helping my sister for the last year and a half through a tumultuous period of recovery and self-discovery and lately she's been telling me she's "stuck" and "just can't find the motivation" to do what she knows she needs to do to take care of herself and move forward spiritually. I don't think it's depression. I suspect she's spinning her wheels upon a false belief that she's having trouble identifying and that is holding her back. I have been looking around for some readings or affirmations about motivation and drive to give her, but haven't found anything helpful. Anyone have any recommendations or affirmations I can share with her?
And before I end, I'll share my favorite affirmation of all time:The goddess made me the way I am and she did NOT screw up.
|Sunday, January 14th, 2007|
The realization of needing "want to."
I've been recording my affirmations over the last 2 weeks, and as I've done so, I've realized that it's really helpful to me to include an "I want to" version, like so:
I help others.
I feel good when I help others.
I am good at helping others.
I want to help others.
adding the "want to" resonates differently - it emphasizes my desire to continue doing it, to start doing it, to become it, etc.
even with the limited "air time" my affirmations are getting (no way to play them back at night yet,) i still hear them throughout my day and they have positively impacted countless situations.
this is good stuff. :-)
|Wednesday, December 13th, 2006|
|Friday, December 8th, 2006|
An affirmation for me...
New Affirmation: I am physically expressive in ways that delight me and those around me
In coversation with one of my loves, I found this belief:
It's horrifically dangerous to be physically expressive because you will be teased in cruel and painful ways
So, I turn that around into the new affirmation: I am physically expressive in ways that delight me and those around me( Chat log...Collapse )
Thinking about thinking
I've been meta-thinking a lot lately, thinking about how thinking affects me. For instance, yesterday I had a horrifically shitty day. I'm pretty convinced that I had that day because I thoroughly set myself up for it.
The night before, my dogs had run off into the woods for seven hours
, and I hadn't slept well because of it. We had an early morning meeting that I didn't want to go to, so I slumped into work not looking forward to anything. I remember my inner dialogue saying, "This day is going to suck
, this day is going to suck
, if even the smallest thing happens, I'm going to be in a really bad mood! I might even quit my job." This was endlessly looping in my head. All. Day.
My day, needless to say again, sucked the moose. It was awful. I damn near quit my job, I quibbled with my boss, I made stupid mistakes, small things ruined my day. I am normally a sweet, cheerful person, but yesterday, I was a grouch. I told people it was entirely likely I was going to quit after telling my boss what a flipping moron he is.
Fortunately, I somehow managed not to do that. Still, the day sucked.
Today, I'm working on getting into a more positive frame of mind. I really, really need to find a microphone for my computer, so I can record these things. ARGH! Current Mood: amused
|Thursday, December 7th, 2006|
This is crossposted to both my journal and lifeaffirmation
First, a question: do you think we should broaden the membership of this group and how would we do that?
I think I'm going to post something to our pool party list.
Second, an update on my progress...
I've written some more of the things we've been thinking about. Will be posting the complete (atricle? paper? whatever...) when I get farther on it. It's based on the two pieces already posted to my journal.
I've observed that after the first week, the rate of change appeared to slow to almost nothing for several days. And then it picked up again, not as fast as during the first week, but still fast.
I did go to a party that's been triggering for me in the past, had a little too much to drink, and got quite triggered again. My inner critic started screeching "see! it doesn't work!". The day after the party was also somewhat difficult, but by the day after that, I'd returned to the new place. Perhaps even better, because I weathered it, I learned that I could weather it and return to this place. I think that helped me feel like it's working even better.
I am very clear that the key is inundating the brain with this feedback ongoingly as much as possible. Because we are trying to change habitual thinking, we have to make it easier to reach for the new words instead of the old ones. The ad agencies know that the way to influence habitual buying patterns is through inundation. I feel like I'm harnessing the same idea and using it "for good".
I sill need to incorporate airynd
's affirmations into my own. And rewrite them all with their "target me" in mind (as discussed in http://akienm.livejournal.com/205620.html
. And finally record the whole lot. ( And boy is it a lot!Collapse )
|Wednesday, December 6th, 2006|
( my list so farCollapse )
There are more I'm sure but this is what I can write down just now.
I am certainly typical of my family, the most difficult ones to read and concentrate on were the ones allowing my self my own time and rest, and allowing myself to accept from others. We tend to put the work or idea of the work or others above and beyond our own wants and needs. And, being human, when we do take that time to meet our own needs, we feel guilt and discomfort. From the conversations we've had, we all have a hard time asking for and accepting more than superficial help.
Physical therapy has been interesting in many, many ways (not least because of the actual visible improvement in my leg). It somewhat forces me to accept aid. Not to deny responsibility or to slack off, but to acknowledge that aid is needed and will be there when I ask for it. It's an odd feeling when you are given the responsibility to *ask* for help, to work as hard as you can, but learning that asking for help is *part* of that working as hard as you can. It's a new concept for me and one that alternately delights and terrifies me. It means I take on a whole new level of control and responsibility. If you are not just *allowed* to ask but the asking is *part* of what you are responsible for doing to complete the task, it opens up a whole scary set of possibilities.
What if all the things that I fight to do and fight to follow through on, are such a struggle because *part of the task* is to ask for assistance *before* I've gotten hurt or frustrated? What if the essential bit, the part of the task I am falling down on, is to acknowledge I am not in control of the world and that I need to *ask*? There's a difference somewhere here between being able to ask for aid and not being responsible for completing one's own tasks. Maybe what is needed is for me to redefine the idea of *task*. Perhaps, if I accept that asking for help is an essential *part* of the task, then the level of frustration and resentment I fight with when I am *forced to ask* isn't needed? And how to draw the line between asking for aid and just being lazy?
Thanks Akein, you've given me much food for thought, and all loverly crunchy bits too.
x-posted to my own journal and < lj user="lifeaffirmation"> Current Mood: thoughtful
|Tuesday, December 5th, 2006|
Saw this in a .sigfile...
"The fountain of content must spring up in the mind, and he who hath so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition, will waste his life in fruitless efforts and multiply the grief he proposes to remove." ~ Samuel Johnson
|Saturday, December 2nd, 2006|
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